I was watching Mystic Pizza last night and the famous husband that sleeps with the babystiter was asked " when did you meet your wife?"
He said " Oh in college, we were sophmores."
Today, I was sitting on my friends porch after work just shooting shit and enjoying the weather. He brought up that he was graduating in May and that he was worried/dissapointed he wasnt in a serious relationship. Beacuse most of his friends that graduated had a girlfriend at the time that soon turned into a fiance.
Also, I got a phone call today that one of my friends since I was 8 years old is pregnant.
I am not in, nor even close to being in a serious relationship and god knows what I was doing my sophmore year of college, I sure as hell wasnt looking for a life long soulmate, unless you consider Evan Williams a canidate.
Is this a problem? Is this what the cultures before us want us to be acustomed to? Or am I using that as a reason? A reason that im single and blaming bein "independent and happy" on not having a serious boyfriend?
Over half the people my age are engaged, pregnant, married, in a serious relationship or on their way there.
I am in none of these categories.
I have mad love for stoli, a good book and pinot noir but, that wont bring me happiness/companionship when I am 70 years old, or will it?
We say never let another human being define your happiness.
But God put us on this planet to love one another and eventually make babies.
My dad didnt get engaged until he was 30 years old, if I have to wait until then to find a man like my dad then so be it, but what if I do watit that long and my prince charming never comes along or he came along and I let him go being to busy being "independent and stubborn."
ahhh I hate thinking. sooo many questions!!! Always have, Dad said he wondered if I could go a day without asking 100 questions.
Well atleast I have the rest of my life to figure it all out :)
Brutal <3's from "The Romantics"
Monday, February 21, 2011
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Evolution
Human beings are mental. Mad. Twisted. Quirky. Broken.
We curse what we cannot change and sorrow over what could be but isn’t and can’t be. We pretend we are whole and sane when inside we are shattered. Horrifically sharp pieces we cut ourselves and others on. We want the black and white wholeness of actuality. Facts indisputable. We yearn for truth but there is a haze of grey across our vision. We claw at our eyes but the grey is inside us. Permeating, saturating, defining us.
This is humanity. We are not factual beings. We are walking shades of grey, but the joy of it is that we are suffused with colour and we paint the world with our shadings. Bright colourful splashes of hope and yearning, wishing and striving. Life is not a sum total of the facts of our existence, should not be, could never be. Because we can be evolution incarnate, each individual who is blessed in seeking more than the day to day survival. In simply…seeking MORE.
Today, I will paint those colours. I will yearn, I will strive, I will ignore facts and wish for what likely cannot be. And I will not regret or sorrow over the helpless things. The shades of grey I wish were black and white and simple. Being human is messy, complicated, and absolutely, thoroughly mental. Also delicious and joy inducing and oh-yes-I-am-so-not-alone-in-this.
And you. I love being human with you. You teach me new colours.
-kym
Happiness and ee cummings
- Choose Happiness
- Be Authentic
- Love Boldly
- Expect the Best
- Never Stop Learning
- Express Gratitude
- Laugh it off
- Live Graciously
- Give Generously
- Breathe Joy
- Move Your Body
"The earth laughs in flowers.
"who knows if the moon's
a balloon,coming out of a keen city
in the sky--filled with pretty people?
a balloon,coming out of a keen city
in the sky--filled with pretty people?
"I thank you God for this most amazing day, for the leaping greenly spirits of trees, and for the blue dream of sky and for everything which is natural, which is infinite, which is yes."
"Tumbling-hair
picker of buttercups
violets
dandelions
And the big bullying daisies
through the field wonderful
with eyes a little sorry
Another comes
also picking flowers "
picker of buttercups
violets
dandelions
And the big bullying daisies
through the field wonderful
with eyes a little sorry
Another comes
also picking flowers "
"Humanity I love you because when you're hard up you pawn your intelligence to buy a drink."
"The world is mud-luscious and puddle-wonderful."
i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
i fear
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
i fear
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)
Saturday, February 19, 2011
This would be my friend Brittany, Brit Tany. Who has turned 21 this week and for some reason it was a WHOLE week celebration, full fledge tequila and whiskey to the face. Two of the nights she fell asleep on the bar at 519, and seconds away from falling asleep on the toilet at Tank. IM questioning her drinking ablities or her sleeping abilities, one of the two. Either way I hope she never turns 21 again, I feel as though I wasnt even a college student this week/weekend, but just a "designated drinker." Detoxing for the next week, no drinking other than a glass of wine and bendryl before bed each night.
The move the Truman Show abs. freaks me out! What if that was your life, all taped and planned and everyone was watching. I dont like to even think about this, that that could even be possible or I will turn into sketchparnoidaymcgee.
Thursday, February 17, 2011
1st bagel was invented in 1683
Fly on.. Little wing
<3 Jimiiiiiiii
Bubble wrap turned 50 years this week.
Originally bubble wrap was conceived as a wallpaper. Since that did not work out, it was used as a wrapping material. Every year enough bubble wrap is made to stretch it all the way to moon and back.
I HATE over studying for a test when it is abs bullarky!
I also wish I could pull a baseball cap off as good as Jessica Simpson.
I never got down the concpet of Pig Latin back in middle school. Now I really wish I did so when my Spanish teacher asks me a question tommrow morning in class I can respond with some smart ass comment in Pig Latin.
I also dont know where I got these huge bruises on my thighs? Results from Brittany Kymers 21st birthday if I had to guess.
<3 Jimiiiiiiii
Bubble wrap turned 50 years this week.
Originally bubble wrap was conceived as a wallpaper. Since that did not work out, it was used as a wrapping material. Every year enough bubble wrap is made to stretch it all the way to moon and back.
I HATE over studying for a test when it is abs bullarky!
I also wish I could pull a baseball cap off as good as Jessica Simpson.
I never got down the concpet of Pig Latin back in middle school. Now I really wish I did so when my Spanish teacher asks me a question tommrow morning in class I can respond with some smart ass comment in Pig Latin.
I also dont know where I got these huge bruises on my thighs? Results from Brittany Kymers 21st birthday if I had to guess.
Monday, February 14, 2011
Frazzled
I've felt a bit loose at the edges lately. You know, one of those weeks where nothing seems to fit and words get interpreted differently than you meant? One of those weeks where no matter how hard you try, something has been forgotten or not finished or come out wrong. There are moments like this, and sometimes because there are so many moments, it seems to become the theme of your day or week. Staying in the moment always helps, but sometimes the moment is so intense or comes on the heels of so many other moments, that I just end up feeling frazzled.
These days are above all the most important days.
These are the days that mindfulness matters even more. These are the days where we learn what true mindfulness means at the very core of our being. These are the days that sometimes we forget about our mindfulness practice and learn that trying too hard and doing too much isn't being mindful either.
These days are above all the most important days.
These are the days that mindfulness matters even more. These are the days where we learn what true mindfulness means at the very core of our being. These are the days that sometimes we forget about our mindfulness practice and learn that trying too hard and doing too much isn't being mindful either.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
groooovinnnnn
I wanna put on my, my, my, my, my
Boogie shoes just to boogie with you
mississipi mudd & tiger shirt
Boogie shoes just to boogie with you
mississipi mudd & tiger shirt
Thursday, February 3, 2011
internships
http://www.businessballs.com/curriculum.htm#applying-for-internships
You should approach applying for internships in much the same way as looking for a job. Therefore much of what appears on this page about CV writing and covering letters for full-time jobs and career advancement will be relevant if you are trying to find a placement for work experience or an internship. The tips and ideas on the job interviews section are also relevant to seeking and applying for and successfully gaining internships and work experience placements.
It's essential to research prospective internship employers. And plan this well in advance. People who leave things until the last minute reduce their options, and increase the amount of competitive pressures involved. Also, planning and researching early in the process will maximise the chances of identifying and securing the best placements.
Employers will be impressed by people who have clearly planned ahead of the rest. Employers will not be impressed by those who've obviously left things late.
Be creative about the way you research your employer market sector(s). First decide on the sector(s), and what you want to do.
Answer this:
Do you define your target sector(s) 'vertically' - according to 'vertical markets', such as retail, solicitors, accountants, charities, healthcare, transport, sports, leisure, etc.; or do you prefer to define your target employers 'horizontally' - according to services and professions that are used across all industries, such as administration, sales, financial, legal, creative, production, quality management, business management, human resources, training and development, etc? Or perhaps a combination of the two, for example, I want to get an internship as a HR person in a charity, or as a production designer in a hi-tech manufacturing company?
However you define your target sector, it's important to do so, because this gives you something specific to aim at. Clarity here is extremely valuable. Clear aims have a much greater chance of being met than fuzzy or indeterminate ideas. This is because we can build an action plan around a clear aim. We can't build a plan around a vague idea.
The action plan starts with researching your target market or sector, however you define it. Focusing on a defined sector helps because certain economies of scale come into effect: commonalities exist between similar organisations and situations which save our time and enable efficient use of our efforts. We can get into a groove and a mind-set that will work in lots of similar situations. Being vague and having no focus makes it impossible to derive these advantages. Variety might be the spice of life, but it's not helpful in putting together a targeted action plan, where focus, consistency, familiarity, knowledge, expertise and professionalism are the important criteria for success.
Research is relatively easy using the internet - but remember the phone as well, especially when you locate a contact who might guide you. Try to identify the focal points where information is gathered and disseminated for your target sector(s). Most vertical industry sectors - and professions - are represented by at least one trade association or professional body or institute. Large sectors will be represented by many different trade associations, bodies and institutes - each of which represents a sub-sector or 'niche' within the main sector. Each representative body will generally have a trade magazine or journal, and also probably a website. These pivotal points will enable you to find out most of what you need to know so as to identify prospective internships (and employers). Use the phone to talk to people in these organisations - editors and secretaries are very knowledgeable and many are very helpful. Try to network and seek referrals from contacts, each time asking politely for help - just be honest and courteous about what you are trying to achieve and many people will be extremely helpful. Accept the fact that you will find yourself barking up the wrong tree on a few occasions - no problem - move onto the next point of contact. Sooner or later you will find what you seek.
What you seek of course is of course a good list of potential employers (and relevant contact details) who fit your criteria. Your criteria will extend beyond market sector and job function. Geography, organisation size, market position, style and culture might also feature in your ideal profile of an internship organisation. Again, define and describe to yourself what you are seeking - an employer profile - and use your research sources to compile a list of the organisations that meet it.
Researching individual organisations on the internet and by telephone, and by requesting details from them (sales brochures, annual reports, etc) helps to build up a feel of the market and or professional sector early on, and this individually focused research is very beneficial later in the process when you begin to tighten your specification and list of prospective employers. This detailed research will directly improve your written approach, and you performance at interview.
When approaching organisations for internships or work experience placements, resist the temptation to send out lots of emails. Letters are best. Emails give a far lower rate of response than letters. Letters have to be opened, but emails don't, and many are binned as junk or spam. Follow the principles on this page to write and send the most impressive CV and cover-letters possible. It's not necessary to have had loads of work experience to create a great-looking impressive CV. See the notes above about writing CVs with little or no work experience.
See also the tips on business writing and also the techniques for writing introductory sales letters, which all relates to the process you are undertaking. Remember, you are selling yourself. For that matter you should also look at the sales training page too, which contains a lot of useful guidance about identifying what people want and developing a proposition to meet those needs, both of which are central to what you are doing.
Telephoning before writing is a good idea. This enables you to qualify the good opportunities and remove the no-hopers. Phone the PA (personal assistant) of the decision-maker, so as to make the introduction, to ask about and qualify the opportunity and process of application and selection, and ask them to look out for your letter. If you are referred to another person or department go with their flow unless you are convinced it's taking you to the wrong place.
Carrying out telephone follow-up to the PA's, and your overall persistence after you've sent your letters and CVs, will also greatly improve your success.
Also helpful is networking (asking contacts for referrals and suggestions about other opportunities) to find the opportunities that best suit your capabilities and aspirations. Networking among smaller business in the same sector can be very effective and would be a useful tactic for example if you wanted to find a placement in a small firm situated nearby or connected with lots of similar providers. Many owners and directors know each other well and are often quite happy to refer you elsewhere. Just because firms compete with each other does not prevent them from referring this sort of interest between themselves when asked. So ask.
Editors of trade journals will often have a good idea of who are the biggest graduate recruiters and who offer most internships within certain sectors. Research can be as easy or difficult as you make it. Try to find the people who know most about what you want to discover and seek their help.
When it comes to sending letters and CVs to your selected organisations, writing personalised letters that explain why you'd like to work for the particular practice gives you a significant advantage over other people who send out an obvious mailshot-type letter, oriented to nobody in particular.
Emphasise what you can do for the employer and your passion for the field or profession or industry, rather than being seen only to seek what they can do for you.
Be flexible on fees and salary rates. Depending on your circumstances and the significance of the opportunity you might even offer to work for minimum wage or for free. It's called 'delaying gratification' or 'investing in your future' and under certain circumstances it's a very effective technique. Good employers will in any event generally pay a fair rate irrespective of what you ask for, and they'll typically be very impressed by people who love their field so much that they are prepared to make personal sacrifices as an investment towards learning and experience.
"Everybody's got to have a first [internship] somewhere. My advice is, hey, if you can find any way to afford it, try to work for free somewhere. Do anything to work in your field." (Richard Hieb, astronaut, from from The Internship Bible, 2003 Edition by Mark Oldman and Samer Hamadeh, as referenced by The Princeton Review.)
Enthusiasm and passion and commitment go a very long way with high quality employers. The decision-makers you will meet in these organisations usually love their work and their chosen field. They've become successful because of their passion and determination.
The best employers want to employ interns who demonstrate this same level of commitment.
You should approach applying for internships in much the same way as looking for a job. Therefore much of what appears on this page about CV writing and covering letters for full-time jobs and career advancement will be relevant if you are trying to find a placement for work experience or an internship. The tips and ideas on the job interviews section are also relevant to seeking and applying for and successfully gaining internships and work experience placements.
It's essential to research prospective internship employers. And plan this well in advance. People who leave things until the last minute reduce their options, and increase the amount of competitive pressures involved. Also, planning and researching early in the process will maximise the chances of identifying and securing the best placements.
Employers will be impressed by people who have clearly planned ahead of the rest. Employers will not be impressed by those who've obviously left things late.
Be creative about the way you research your employer market sector(s). First decide on the sector(s), and what you want to do.
Answer this:
Do you define your target sector(s) 'vertically' - according to 'vertical markets', such as retail, solicitors, accountants, charities, healthcare, transport, sports, leisure, etc.; or do you prefer to define your target employers 'horizontally' - according to services and professions that are used across all industries, such as administration, sales, financial, legal, creative, production, quality management, business management, human resources, training and development, etc? Or perhaps a combination of the two, for example, I want to get an internship as a HR person in a charity, or as a production designer in a hi-tech manufacturing company?
However you define your target sector, it's important to do so, because this gives you something specific to aim at. Clarity here is extremely valuable. Clear aims have a much greater chance of being met than fuzzy or indeterminate ideas. This is because we can build an action plan around a clear aim. We can't build a plan around a vague idea.
The action plan starts with researching your target market or sector, however you define it. Focusing on a defined sector helps because certain economies of scale come into effect: commonalities exist between similar organisations and situations which save our time and enable efficient use of our efforts. We can get into a groove and a mind-set that will work in lots of similar situations. Being vague and having no focus makes it impossible to derive these advantages. Variety might be the spice of life, but it's not helpful in putting together a targeted action plan, where focus, consistency, familiarity, knowledge, expertise and professionalism are the important criteria for success.
Research is relatively easy using the internet - but remember the phone as well, especially when you locate a contact who might guide you. Try to identify the focal points where information is gathered and disseminated for your target sector(s). Most vertical industry sectors - and professions - are represented by at least one trade association or professional body or institute. Large sectors will be represented by many different trade associations, bodies and institutes - each of which represents a sub-sector or 'niche' within the main sector. Each representative body will generally have a trade magazine or journal, and also probably a website. These pivotal points will enable you to find out most of what you need to know so as to identify prospective internships (and employers). Use the phone to talk to people in these organisations - editors and secretaries are very knowledgeable and many are very helpful. Try to network and seek referrals from contacts, each time asking politely for help - just be honest and courteous about what you are trying to achieve and many people will be extremely helpful. Accept the fact that you will find yourself barking up the wrong tree on a few occasions - no problem - move onto the next point of contact. Sooner or later you will find what you seek.
What you seek of course is of course a good list of potential employers (and relevant contact details) who fit your criteria. Your criteria will extend beyond market sector and job function. Geography, organisation size, market position, style and culture might also feature in your ideal profile of an internship organisation. Again, define and describe to yourself what you are seeking - an employer profile - and use your research sources to compile a list of the organisations that meet it.
Researching individual organisations on the internet and by telephone, and by requesting details from them (sales brochures, annual reports, etc) helps to build up a feel of the market and or professional sector early on, and this individually focused research is very beneficial later in the process when you begin to tighten your specification and list of prospective employers. This detailed research will directly improve your written approach, and you performance at interview.
When approaching organisations for internships or work experience placements, resist the temptation to send out lots of emails. Letters are best. Emails give a far lower rate of response than letters. Letters have to be opened, but emails don't, and many are binned as junk or spam. Follow the principles on this page to write and send the most impressive CV and cover-letters possible. It's not necessary to have had loads of work experience to create a great-looking impressive CV. See the notes above about writing CVs with little or no work experience.
See also the tips on business writing and also the techniques for writing introductory sales letters, which all relates to the process you are undertaking. Remember, you are selling yourself. For that matter you should also look at the sales training page too, which contains a lot of useful guidance about identifying what people want and developing a proposition to meet those needs, both of which are central to what you are doing.
Telephoning before writing is a good idea. This enables you to qualify the good opportunities and remove the no-hopers. Phone the PA (personal assistant) of the decision-maker, so as to make the introduction, to ask about and qualify the opportunity and process of application and selection, and ask them to look out for your letter. If you are referred to another person or department go with their flow unless you are convinced it's taking you to the wrong place.
Carrying out telephone follow-up to the PA's, and your overall persistence after you've sent your letters and CVs, will also greatly improve your success.
Also helpful is networking (asking contacts for referrals and suggestions about other opportunities) to find the opportunities that best suit your capabilities and aspirations. Networking among smaller business in the same sector can be very effective and would be a useful tactic for example if you wanted to find a placement in a small firm situated nearby or connected with lots of similar providers. Many owners and directors know each other well and are often quite happy to refer you elsewhere. Just because firms compete with each other does not prevent them from referring this sort of interest between themselves when asked. So ask.
Editors of trade journals will often have a good idea of who are the biggest graduate recruiters and who offer most internships within certain sectors. Research can be as easy or difficult as you make it. Try to find the people who know most about what you want to discover and seek their help.
When it comes to sending letters and CVs to your selected organisations, writing personalised letters that explain why you'd like to work for the particular practice gives you a significant advantage over other people who send out an obvious mailshot-type letter, oriented to nobody in particular.
Emphasise what you can do for the employer and your passion for the field or profession or industry, rather than being seen only to seek what they can do for you.
Be flexible on fees and salary rates. Depending on your circumstances and the significance of the opportunity you might even offer to work for minimum wage or for free. It's called 'delaying gratification' or 'investing in your future' and under certain circumstances it's a very effective technique. Good employers will in any event generally pay a fair rate irrespective of what you ask for, and they'll typically be very impressed by people who love their field so much that they are prepared to make personal sacrifices as an investment towards learning and experience.
"Everybody's got to have a first [internship] somewhere. My advice is, hey, if you can find any way to afford it, try to work for free somewhere. Do anything to work in your field." (Richard Hieb, astronaut, from from The Internship Bible, 2003 Edition by Mark Oldman and Samer Hamadeh, as referenced by The Princeton Review.)
Enthusiasm and passion and commitment go a very long way with high quality employers. The decision-makers you will meet in these organisations usually love their work and their chosen field. They've become successful because of their passion and determination.
The best employers want to employ interns who demonstrate this same level of commitment.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
ihatepersuasiontheoriesbutlovedr.howard
So in between all the bullshit and flowers, don’t be distracted by what everyone else is doing, there are way too many other incredible ways to live, change and improve your life.
& that is all that really matters anyway.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M7N6Hhil_D8 WHY HAVE I NOT SEEN THIS MOVIE!
Not to mention Adam's in it ;)
& that is all that really matters anyway.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M7N6Hhil_D8 WHY HAVE I NOT SEEN THIS MOVIE!
Not to mention Adam's in it ;)
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